The concept of love can be described and defined in many different ways. It’s a word. It’s a feeling. It’s a combination of both. It’s a concept (like all concepts) that is socially constructed and socially conditioned. Some would describe it as “caring deeply for” or “having a passion for” or “doing crazy things for” or it encompasses all of the above.For me, when it comes to relationships (be it family, friends, or lovers), love is a matter of recognizing and appreciating the value of someone. As I previously wrote: when you can learn to value yourself, then you can learn to value others. I wrote that over two years ago and I feel much more strongly about that now than ever. It’s just like that saying, “love yourself, before you love another,” except it’s my version.
I am amazing. I know this. I am not going to break down why and how I know this, but it has to do with identifying all of my best qualities and capabilities as a person. That is not to say that I am perfect for there are many things I don’t know, don’t like, and don’t do. But for what I do know, do like, and do do, I am pretty awesome. From this, because I recognize and know what I value in myself, I can recognize and know what I value in others.
When I value someone, all I want to do is give to him/her. It is how I appreciate what I value in him/her. Of course, how one appreciates another is subject to one’s own approach to expression. It may appear to be crazy acts, but it’s all subjective. When I give to someone, whether in the form of a gift or gesture, it is my way of saying,
“Hey. Thanks for being in my life.”
“Hey. Thanks for believing in my awesomeness.”
One of the many goals in my life is to make sure that each person whom I value knows that I value him/her. I have this list of things that I want to do which will take quite some time and money to accomplish, but I will accomplish it.
To my family and friends, I value you.
To you (you know who you are), I value you very much.